If you have decided to write an advance directive, Opens dialog, you have taken an important step to make sure that your health care wishes are met. As you prepare an advance directive, you will need to follow four important steps.

1. Get the living will, Opens dialog and medical power of attorney, Opens dialog forms for your state.
   • Forms are different in each state. And they may be called something else in your state. In general, doctors will respect your wishes even if you have a form from a different state.
   • You may be able to find a universal form that has been approved by many states.
   • You can get the forms in a doctor's office, a hospital, a law office, a state or local office for the aging, a senior center, a nursing home, or online. For more information, including forms for your state, see the CaringInfo website (www.caringinfo.org/planning/advance-directives/).
2. Choose someone to be your health care agent, Opens dialog.
   • This should be a person you trust to make decisions for you.
   • A health care agent may be called something else in your state.
3. Fill out the forms, and have them notarized or witnessed as your state requires.
   • A universal form can sometimes be completed and stored online. Your electronic copy will then be available wherever you have a connection to the Internet.
   • If your state offers an online registry, you may be able to store your advance directive online. Then authorized health care providers can find it right away.
4. Keep your advance directive in a safe but easy-to-access place where others can find it.
   • Don't keep it in a safe deposit box unless others can get to it. On each copy, write down where the original form is kept.
   • Give copies to your health care agent, your lawyer, your doctor, family members, and any other person who may be called if you have a medical emergency.
   • If you are using an electronic copy, be sure your doctor, family members, and health care agent know how to access it online.

You can change or cancel your advance directive at any time. Just fill out new forms and get rid of your existing forms. Or you can just let your family, your doctor, and your health care agent know about the change. If you change or create new forms, give everyone an updated copy. Don't just cross out or add new details unless it's only to change your address or phone number.

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It may be hard to know what to include in your advance directive if your form doesn't tell you what to address. Many states have a unique advance directive form. (For example, the form may ask you to address specific issues.) Or you might use a universal form that has been approved by many states.

You can also use the information below to help you get started.

Making decisions

Who do you want to make your health care decisions for you?

• Do you have a person in mind, such as your partner, a close friend, or your doctor? The person you choose to make these decisions for you is your health care agent, Opens dialog. (That person may be called something else in your state. And in some states, the doctor who's treating you can't be your health care agent.)
• Can you talk to this person about the kinds of treatments you do or don't want to have?
• Does this put too much pressure on the person to make decisions for you? Do you think that this person will be able to do what you ask?

Types of treatment

Do you know enough about the kinds of treatments that can help keep you alive?

• Cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR), Opens dialog is used if your heart has stopped.
• A breathing machine that pumps air into your lungs through a tube is used if you can't breathe on your own.
• Dialysis, Opens dialog is used if your kidneys stop working.
• A feeding tube or an intravenous (I.V.) line is used to provide food and fluids if you can't eat or drink.
• Antibiotics are medicines used to treat serious infections.

Life support

How do you feel about the use of life support if you:

• Have a serious illness that can't be cured?
• Are in a coma and there is little chance that you'll come out of it?
• Have a long-term illness that gets worse over time and doesn't get better?

Your concerns

What concerns you the most?

• Are you worried that you'll have pain or be kept alive on machines?
• Are you worried that you'll lose your ability to function and live on your own or that you'll be a burden to your family?
• Are there things that scare you? Include your fears or concerns in your advance directive.

Quality of life

What does quality of life mean to you?

• Do you want to be able to function and live on your own?
• Are you okay with living in a hospital or nursing home?
• Are you okay with being kept alive by machines?

Do you have any other thoughts about what quality of life means to you and how much control you want to have over it?

End-of-life questions

Here are some other questions to think about:

• Where do you want to spend the last days of your life? Would it be in the hospital or at home?
• Do you have any medical problems right now that affect your way of life?
• Do you have an implanted cardiac device? This includes some types of pacemakers and ICDs (implantable cardioverter-defibrillators). You may want to turn off your device as part of your end-of-life medical treatment.
• Do you want to donate your organs when you die?
• Can you talk to your doctor about end-of-life issues?

Spiritual beliefs

• Do your religious or spiritual beliefs keep you from having an advance directive? If they do, ask your clergy or spiritual adviser to help you know what to do if you can't make medical decisions for yourself.
• Will you be able to practice religious rituals before you die? In some religions, rituals are done before or after a person dies. If you want certain rituals to be done and know who you want to do them, write them in your advance directive. For safety reasons, some hospitals may not let you do certain rituals.
• Do you want to include your beliefs and thoughts about illness, dying, and death?

Finding answers

You may find it hard to answer some of these questions. Here's a way to help make things more clear.

Try to picture yourself in each of the situations listed below. Then think about what you would like to happen if you couldn't say what you wanted. As you read through each example, write down any thoughts that come to you.

• What if you had a disease that couldn't be cured? Would you want to be given antibiotics to get rid of an infection, such as pneumonia, that might lead to your death if it's not treated?
• What if you had a disease that gets worse over time and affects your movement or memory, such as Parkinson's disease or Alzheimer's disease? Would you want to be given food and fluids through a tube? If so, is there a time when you would want to stop this treatment?
• What if you were in pain? Would you want to be given strong doses of medicine to ease it, even if they make you groggy and not able to think clearly?
• What if you were in a coma and there was little chance that you would come out of it? Would you want to be kept alive by a machine that pumps air into your lungs through a tube if you can't breathe on your own?

Try this exercise again with a few more "what if" situations. This time you might think about what your doctor says about your chances for recovery and how that might affect what you decide to do. You may see some patterns develop that can help you decide what to include in your advance directive.

These decisions are tough to make, but you don't have to make them alone. Look to your family, your doctor, your health care agent, and your friends for help and support. Involve them as you write your advance directive so they'll know what you want. If something happens that you didn't plan for, they'll have a better idea of how you would want to handle it.

Changing your advance directive

You can change or cancel your advance directive at any time. Just fill out new forms and get rid of your existing forms. Or you can just let your family, your doctor, and your health care agent know about the change. If you change or create new forms, give everyone an updated copy. Don't just cross out or add new information unless it's only to change your address or phone number.

Storing your advance directive

Keep copies of your living will and medical power of attorney in a safe but easy-to-access place where others can find them. Do not keep your advance directive forms in a safe deposit box. If you can't speak for yourself, your family may not know how to access these forms. And don't rely on your lawyer to be able to provide the documents when they are needed. Your family may not know who to contact.

If your state offers an online registry, you may be able to store your advance directive online so authorized health care providers can find it right away. Give copies of these documents to your doctor, your health care agent, your family members, your lawyer, and anyone else who may need them.

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