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This handout will help you explain death of a sibling to children and give you tips to help them cope.
Let children talk and listen to what they have to say.
Know that they may not want to talk. Let them know it is ok to ask questions, share their feelings and thoughts, and talk when they feel ready.
Find out what they want to know by asking basic questions. You can start by asking a question such as “What do you know about what is going on with (sibling’s name)?” By starting with a question, you can find out what they know.
Keep your answers short and make sure you answered what they are asking. Use words they can understand. Tell that truth.
If you don’t know an answer, don’t be afraid to say you don’t know. If it’s a question you can find out, find out together.
Answer the questions they ask with facts. Separate what is known and what is believed. Use concrete words like “died,” “death,” “dying,” and “dead.” Using phrases like “passed away,” “lost,” “gone,” or “sleeping,” can confuse children. They may think the deceased person will wake up or come back. It may lead to fear of falling asleep. They need to know that death is permanent.
Be patient. Anyone dealing with grief needs time to understand what happened and adjust. Children may ask the same questions over and over. They can also be overwhelmed and sad one moment, and silly and playful the next moment.
Offer children time to write, draw, or do other art projects. This may help them to express their feelings. Offer children time for physical activity. This can help release excess energy and emotions. Remember to maintain routines as much as you can, such as school, time with friends, and normal activities for the child.
Involve children in new family rituals to remember the child who died. This could be a special family outing, planting a tree, or creating a memento for your home.
Reach out to hospital support staff, such as child life specialists, social workers, health psychologists, and chaplains, for books and other tools to help you talk to your child and help them begin to cope.